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Our final bit of inspiration this holiday season comes from the perspective of a committed, determined Best Buddies parent, Erica Asbury, from North Carolina. She has demonstrated unwavering faith in her son, Allen, and his capabilities throughout his entire life \u2013 even when the odds were against him.<\/p>\n
Allen was born prematurely, weighing only one pound with the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck, and the doctors said he would not live. With no hesitation whatsoever, Erica responded, “No. He will be fine.” Allen is now a vibrant 20-year-old, with a wonderful group of friends he met in college and a passion for football and video games.<\/p>\n
Every parent’s dream is for their child to live the absolute best life imaginable \u2013 especially parents of children with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD), like Erica. Hear how she remains optimistic in the face of adversity by always keeping her dreams for her son in the forefront.[\/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner css=”.vc_custom_1607448942268{background-color: #fafafa !important;border-radius: 10px !important;}”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1609200752053{padding-top: 25px !important;}”]Now that Allen is an adult, how would you reflect on your experience raising a child with IDD?<\/strong> Allen has achieved so much! How did you feel as he became more independent?<\/strong> After Allen was matched with his Best Buddy, Jessica, he said it was like the movie Madagascar 2, when a zebra is able to connect with other zebras for the first time. He wasn’t alone; he had found his place and his people. He and Jessica are still close, and she even drove 3 hours to spend time with him at last year’s Friendship Walk.<\/p>\n What’s been your biggest challenge of 2020?<\/strong> What are your hopes for the future?<\/strong> Allen has completely bloomed before my eyes. It was one thing for me and his family to believe in him, but it has been unequivocal to what he has gained in self-worth by having the university staff and members of the Best Buddies program to see him as a valuable member of the community. I no longer feel like I have to convince people that my child is worth it \u2013 they know he is.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1\/2″][vc_single_image image=”140194″ img_size=”630×630″ add_caption=”yes” alignment=”center”][\/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1\/2″][vc_single_image image=”140195″ img_size=”630×630″ add_caption=”yes” alignment=”center”][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][vc_row_inner css=”.vc_custom_1607556433365{margin-top: -15px !important;}”][vc_column_inner][vc_column_text]Every parent has hopes and dreams for their child, just like Erica. Your support this holiday season gives them the confidence needed to keep pushing forward, knowing that Best Buddies creates a community where everyone is valued and appreciated for who they are.<\/p>\n Make a year-end gift today and have it count toward your 2021 Best Buddies Challenge fundraising!<\/p>\n Thanks to the Ansin Foundation, every donation up to $142,000 will be matched dollar-for-dollar<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Make A Gift Here<\/a>\n Consider making it a recurring gift by becoming a monthly donor!<\/strong><\/p>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]\n In continuing with stories of resilience this holiday season, please allow us to introduce you to Olivia DeCaria (aka “Diva” Olivia \u2013 her preferred moniker), a 33-year-old, hilarious, all-around fabulous southern belle who has been a part of Best Buddies for 10 years!<\/p>\n Olivia loves shopping, singing karaoke, having sleepovers, watching Friends and Golden Girls marathons, painting, and going out for coffee. She and her roommate, Brooke, live together in a duplex in Nashville and have kept each other active and entertained; during the pandemic. It’s never a dull moment with those two, but they both very much miss being able to see their friends from Best Buddies in person like they used to.<\/p>\n As Olivia shares more about her journey, it’s undeniable that her confidence and dazzling personality help her rise above any challenge \u2013 as do the lifelong friendships she has found through Best Buddies.[\/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner css=”.vc_custom_1607448942268{background-color: #fafafa !important;border-radius: 10px !important;}”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1608043529051{padding-top: 25px !important;}”]What was your life like growing up with Down syndrome?<\/strong> Fast forward several years after high school to 2010 when I found out about Best Buddies. I got matched with my Buddy, Kristen, and the rest is history, baby! Even though Kristen recently moved back home closer to family, we always stay in touch and I know we will grow very old together (like Blanche and Rose on Golden Girls). I love my new Best Buddy, Sydney, too! She\u2019s someone I can confide in and I still chat on the phone and text with her during these hard times.<\/p>\n What do you want people to know about you when they meet you?<\/strong> I also want people to know I’m strong and courageous. I’ve been through a lot, including a major heart surgery that turned my whole life around. I stayed determined and focused during my recovery and lost over 80 pounds!<\/p>\n What has been your biggest challenge in 2020?<\/strong> But I’m so looking forward to 2021 and I see a bright future with my Best Buddies family![\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1\/2″][vc_single_image image=”139840″ img_size=”630×630″ add_caption=”yes” alignment=”center”][\/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1\/2″][vc_single_image image=”139841″ img_size=”630×630″ add_caption=”yes” alignment=”center”][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][vc_row_inner css=”.vc_custom_1607556433365{margin-top: -15px !important;}”][vc_column_inner][vc_column_text]Olivia’s positive outlook truly inspires us. Best Buddies will continue to do everything possible to support her, and other people with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD) \u2013 but we need your support to do so. This holiday season, help us build a brighter future for Olivia and all of our participants.<\/p>\n
\nI loved being Allen\u2019s mom before I even met him. I wanted to be a mom so badly, and the very thought of him made me full of joy. From overcoming medical obstacles to being on the honor roll throughout high school and attending Appalachian State University, Allen has achieved countless milestones that doctors, therapists, and teachers said he never would. I am just so proud of him, and I believe that he is a true gift. His willingness to set goals, accomplish them, and start again is what motivates me.<\/p>\n
\nMy life as a mom changed when Allen left for college and joined Best Buddies. It was Allen’s first opportunity in his entire life to pick out his clothes, meals, social activities, etc. Frankly, I wouldn’t have been comfortable letting him go if it weren’t for programs like Best Buddies, which surrounded him with people who cared for and understood him.<\/p>\n
\nKeeping our spirits high when everything shut down, the way that racial relations deteriorated, the disconnection from a routine, and the scarcity of everyday items made life feel like nothing that we had ever experienced. For Allen, I also feared that he would lose his fire for being independent. It was tough to go from being in college and totally on his own to being back home with his mom, but he’s found ways to stay connected with his community through Best Buddies.<\/p>\n
\nMy hope is that Allen has every opportunity that any other young adult has: a quality and affordable education; the opportunity to be employed so that he can be an independent and productive citizen; and the chance to contribute as a subject matter expert concerning the lives of Black men with additional needs.<\/p>\nOlivia DeCaria<\/h2>\n
\nI was bullied in school. I was overweight, acne all over my face, and people made fun of me and called me the r-word. I was everyone\u2019s target in the hallways and at dodgeball. No one wanted to sit next to me at lunch. I was the outsider and the only friends I had were the staff and teachers.<\/p>\n
\nSo many things! I\u2019m sweet, outgoing, love my family and friends, I put other people\u2019s needs before my own\u2026basically all the things that Dolly Parton is. Plus, I do have the gorgeous hair and style that Dolly has too.<\/p>\n
\nThis pandemic has been driving me crazy. It’s driving a wedge between me and my man and my diva celebrity life. Do you know the theme song from Cheers? I’m not trying to brag, but \u201ceverybody knows my name\u201d around here and I\u2019m missing that. Best Buddies helps me shine like the true celebrity I am and I miss going to events like old times.<\/p>\n